Getting Rid of the Agenda

This was written primarily for my friends in Mentoring For Free, but I hope you will find it of value no matter who you are and what you do.  ~ Willena

GETTING RID OF THE AGENDA

I hear about all the time in Mentoring For Free. I’ve heard Michael Dlouhy say it. I’ve heard all of the leaders say it. I’ve heard my own mentor say it. And I’ve said it to myself plenty of times.

Get rid of the agenda!!

But what is an agenda? And how do you know if you have one? Most of us have one. Why should we get rid of it? And most important, HOW can you get rid of it?

WHAT IS AN AGENDA?

What does it mean to have an agenda, and how do you know if you have one?

If you don’t know the answer to those questions, it might be time to ask yourself some questions…

• Are you afraid to call people who have downloaded your ebook?
• Are you disappointed when Michael doesn’t choose your lesson plan, for discussion on the mental cleanse?
• Are you impatient with your personal growth?
• Are you frustrated with the results you are – or are not – getting in your business?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, chances are pretty good that you have an agenda. Because an agenda really is nothing more than your ego getting in the way of your results. Another way of saying it would be that you have an ulterior motive.

If you are afraid to call people who have downloaded your ebook, it could be because you are afraid you’re going to have to sell somebody something. Or you are afraid you’ll get tongue-tied and say the wrong thing. Or maybe you’re afraid of what your new client will think of you.

Disappointment when Michael doesn’t choose your lesson plan for the mental cleanse is a good indication that you are writing for Michael, or his approval. Writing your lesson plan should be from your heart, for your own benefit. When you do that, your lesson is far more likely to touch the hearts of the people who read it.

If you are impatient with your personal growth, feeling that it’s happening too slowly, just remember… it’s a process… a journey, and not a race. You are not in a competition with anyone else. Resisting and struggling against who you are today, or trying to force your growth, will only slow you down even further in the long run. Let growth happen naturally… let the rosebud unfold at its own pace… and you will be stronger for it, and a true leader and inspiration to others.

If you are frustrated because you are not getting good results in your business, is it because you are comparing yourself with others? Remember, getting consistent results and sponsoring people is a process in itself. It doesn’t happen to anyone as soon as they get into Mentoring For Free. Allow yourself to become the leader you would want to follow… the sponsor you would want to be sponsored by.

A question that came to my mind as I was considering this topic was, What’s the difference between positive thinking and having an agenda? What if your self talk says you are getting 10 ebook downloads every week? That’s a lot of downloads! Are you wrong to put that out there and work your hardest to make it happen? Isn’t that having an agenda?

Well… Sarah Thompson tells us we can have as many downloads as we WANT and EXPECT, from any method we choose. I believe she is right.

The difference lies is in your motive for wanting 10 ebook downloads a week. Is it because you want to prove something to someone? Are you trying to look good to your mentor or your team? Are you coming from desperation and a lack mentality?

When I first came to Mentoring For Free, I wanted to replace my husband’s income in the first two years. Not because I wanted to show off or prove anything to anyone, but because I was desperate. When my husband retires, our youngest son will be only 13 years old, and I saw financial shipwreck ahead. Desperation and fear are NOT good motivation, and I had to get rid of that agenda pretty fast.

WHY SHOULD YOU GET RID OF THE AGENDA?

When you have an agenda, people can feel it. It makes them feel as if you are pushing them, trying to make them do something they aren’t ready to do. Removing the agenda will change your business dramatically. It is the ONLY way to become a mentor with a servant’s heart.

Business models drive the behaviour in the field. We often think of that in the context of MLM companies and their compensation plans and policies and procedures. Think of it for a moment in terms of network marketing itself. We are not internet marketers or affiliate marketers, both of which are set up so that you need great numbers of people coming to you on a regular basis. Neither of them give true residual income which is ongoing whether you are actively building or not.

We are network marketers. Relationship builders. Relationships take time, and are never based on one making the other do anything. We don’t force our children to do anything… or at least we shouldn’t, unless we want them to turn against us one day when they are old enough to think and act for themselves. And neither should we try to force anything on our students or our downline. Getting rid of the agenda allows for a healthy, growing, prosperous relationship between us and everyone whose lives we touch.

HOW DO YOU GET RID OF THE AGENDA?

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. You show people the way, but it’s up to them to take it. Don’t let it bother you if they don’t. It isn’t that you don’t care. You do, because you know you can help them, and you want to. But it isn’t going to make or break you if that particular person decides not to.

Always work to have more people in your pipeline than you can handle. That way you are more distanced from any particular individual, and won’t be obsessing over whether that one takes the next step.

The conscious mind is like a sentry. Nothing is allowed into the subconscious mind unless your conscious mind lets it in. This is why it is so important, when talking to clients, to be in the present moment. Listen with your conscious mind, keeping the eight positive emotions in the front of your mind AT ALL TIMES.

THE 8 POSITIVE EMOTIONS

1. Desire
2. Faith
3. Love
4. Sex
5. Enthusiasm
6. Romance
7. Hope
8. Prosperity

Your primary thought should always be, “It’s not about me… it’s all about YOU… how can I help YOU to build YOUR business?” And how do you know how to help someone if you haven’t really listened to the person, with all eight positive emotions?

ALL you want to do is help someone realize his or her goals and dreams, and offer the tools and training to do so. Learn to let go of the need to control the outcome. It does not matter if the person ever joins you — you treat them all the same. Be there, listening, in all the positive emotions, and be patient. Know that in time, the right ones WILL come to you.

Here’s a bit of wisdom I heard from Michael one time. When you are going to talk to someone, ask yourself what it is you love to do, that if time and money were not an issue, you would be doing right now. Would you be basking in the sun on a white, sandy beach in the South Pacific? Then think… Every person who downloads your ebook wants to be on a white, sandy beach in the South Pacific ALL the time! Imagine you are going to call them to schedule an appointment to go to that sandy beach with you.

Not only does your FEAR disappear, but your AGENDA is gone! Suddenly nothing can STOP you from calling them! Why? Because now you are going to give them something THEY want.

© Willena Flewelling
Success in 10 Steps
Phone 780-349-7163

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