Something happened this week that completely blew me away.
Some call it intuition… others call it telepathy. Napoleon Hill calls it the sixth sense. I have had others’ unspoken thoughts affect my thoughts, and motivate me to a particular action. But this time I was the one who affected someone else, two thousand miles away — swiftly and strongly. It was amazing proof to me that we really do send out vibrations to others — and they will be received by those who are open to them.
Picture this: A conference call, attended by several hundred people from all over the globe. The host, Michael Dlouhy, is in Florida, and I am in Edmonton Alberta. Michael mistook someone else for me when she spoke up on the call. Not surprising in itself. But a little later in the call, Michael called me by name and asked if I was wanting to ask a question, because he felt very strongly that I was. Well, I wasn’t. But neither was it his imagination. Let me explain…
The first time my mentor ever spoke with me, I told her I have ADHD. She said, “Really? You don’t sound like it.” She went on to say, “Michael doesn’t believe there is any such thing as ADHD, and that it’s the Blue personality.”
“Yeah, right,” I thought. “That’s because Michael does not live inside my head.” Because everyone knows I am not a Blue… one of the four colours assigned to the personality types. Blue… otherwise known as Sanguine… i.e. the vivacious, outgoing, fast-talking, stylishly flamboyant, fun-loving, entertaining, enthusiastic type who starts, motivates AND LEADS the team!
A Blue I am not.
I react to Michael’s comments about ADHD every time, but on that conference call for some reason it was very strong, like a powerful jolt of electricity. I wanted so badly to speak up. THAT is what Michael was picking up on when he thought I was trying to speak up, and it blew me away that he KNEW.
Here’s the thing…
It has always bothered me when Michael dismisses ADHD as if it doesn’t exist, because it was a very positive thing for me to learn that I had it, and that I was not just stupid, lazy, scattered or crazy. It was a tremendous relief for me to understand why I think and act the way I do. I felt like the weight of a lifetime had been lifted off my back. And when I showed the evidence to my husband, he said he felt as if he’d been given the key to understanding me for the first time in the 23 years he had known me. It was awesome… kind of like a Blue learning he or she is a Blue.
To be told you don’t have ADHD… you’re just a Blue… if you are NOT a Blue… could be confusing and not very helpful. ADHD crosses all temperaments and colours. But I have never spoken about this to Michael before, because I don’t want to undermine the excellent work he is doing with all of us. AND because I’ve discovered something… it’s two-fold….
First, I know Michael means well, and the few times he has mentioned it on a call, someone may need exactly his take on it, in order to grow. It could spell Freedom to someone who has lived under that label for years, and has convinced himself or herself that change is not possible.
Second, when it irritates me and I want to correct him, I am coming from the Negative side of the emotions chart. It’s that desire to “set someone straight,” because “I have done the research and I KNOW.” And as long as I am hanging on to that, how do I know I am not still “owning” the label, which will only hold me back.
I don’t think so much about ADHD any more because I know I was using it as an excuse… a limitation. Nor do I think of it as “my” ADHD any more, because that’s owning what does not serve me. Instead I accept myself for who and how I am, and look for ways to grow. I still catch myself sometimes, but I’m learning.
I did not speak up on the call, because I knew my attitude was all wrong. But I did write to Michael immediately after the call, to share with him what had happened. Through his response I was reminded again of the vital importance of NOT owning our weaknesses, but focusing on our strengths, developing and establishing them. The mental cleanse, self talk, perfect day, and living in the now are all priceless tools for maximizing our strengths. They’ve done wonders for me, and as I continue in my personal growth, I am able more and more to see what my strengths are, and build on them.
© Willena Flewelling
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