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Living in the Present Moment

Jan 022011

In his recent blog post, The Man Who Knew Too Little, Michael Berry wrote:

“If we would all just approach life as if it’s just a movie and a game, which it is, we would not have any concerns about the future with the “knowing” that it’ll all work out as long as we just take action toward our goals.”

It sounds a lot like living in the present moment. And what exactly does that mean? Eckhart Tolle has covered the concept beautifully in his book, The Power of Now. I find Guy Finley even more helpful and practical.

Here are my thoughts…

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Getting Unstuck

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Jul 142010

When Think & Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, is studied with a mastermind group, it helps you to find the treasure buried deep within yourself. Discover YOUR treasure by signing up with the 30 Day Mental Cleanse. Each week we read a chapter from the book, and then write down our thoughts, comments, and lessons learned.

Here are my thoughts from this week’s chapter.

Chapter 9 – PERSISTENCE

I used to tease my husband because he tends to wait for a bolt of lightning before making a decision
and taking action. It’s taken me a long time to see that I do the same thing!

I’ve known for the past month that I’ve already isolated and exposed what is holding me back, and
that ALL that is left is ACTION. But still, doing my mental cleanse lesson for this week, I was plagued by the same old question…WHAT has got me stuck in a certain quagmire, and HOW do I get out of it to TAKE action?

This morning I was following a rabbit trail when I came across an audio by Guy Finley, whose teachings fit so well with those of Napoleon Hill. The brief talk focused on the negative self-absorption we so often engage in…and I KNEW he was talking to me. His message sliced through all the nonsense, cutting to the quick, and went straight to the core, and catapulted me into ACTION.

He took me straight to the answer I had been avoiding at all cost, so that it was smack dab in my face and I HAD to see it. My attention was full on it.

Guy says, “Negative self absorption is a form of taking something from yourself in order to keep yourself feeling the way you do…to keep in place the very pain that you’re experiencing.”

When I’m negatively self absorbed, I’m absorbed in what I don’t want! And I don’t have to stay there! I don’t have to do and be what I am!!!

Wow. Suddenly it’s a whole lot easier to listen to Hill and accept his wisdom. I am not lacking in persistence at all…I just need to apply it to what will build me up instead of what tears me down.

Development of persistence in acquiring riches is the same as in its negative counterpart. The formula is the same:

1. Definite Purpose
2. Define Plan
3. Mind Closed Tightly against ALL negativity & discouragement
4. Mastermind Group

This must be combined with a powerful Self-talk and a vivid Imagination, and practiced thoroughly and persistently.

“Spasmodic or occasional effort to apply the rules will be of no value to you,” says Hill, and I am well aware of that. “To get RESULTS, you must apply ALL of the rules until their application becomes a fixed habit with you.”

Willpower and desire, when properly combined, make an irresistible pair. For many years I’ve seen it in the negative. It’s time to forget about the why’s and wherefore’s of how I got to where I am…and put that willpower and desire to work in moving forward with my life.

I saw this quote on Facebook today…

“A friend is someone who knows the song in your
heart and can sing it back to you when you have
forgotten the words.”

It made me think of Michael Dlouhy and this mastermind group. That’s what we do…that’s what we’re here for…and I thank all of you for reminding me so often of the song in MY heart.

Willena Flewelling

Many leaders, including myself, say that the 30 Day Cleanse is the #1 reason for their success in network marketing. We’ve heard it said many times, “To make more, we have to become more.” When we take back our thoughts, we are becoming more.

You can register for the 30 Day Cleanse mastermind group here…it’s free…as is all of our skills training at Mentoring For Free which begins with downloading and reading “Success in 10 Steps” by Michael Dlouhy, founder of Mentoring For Free. I would be happy to walk through the skills training with you just as my coach and mentor have been helping me all along. Make it a great day!!

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The Power of the Mastermind

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Apr 052010

Think & Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill is a treasure known to most network marketers. When studied with a mastermind group, it also breaks the ground so that you can find the treasure buried deep within YOU. Discover YOUR treasure by signing up with the 30 Day Mental Cleanse. Each week we read a chapter from the book, and then write down our thoughts, comments, and lessons learned. Here are my thoughts from this week’s chapter.

Chapter 10: POWER OF THE MASTER MIND

The Stream of Power

“There exists a great unseen stream of POWER”, says Hill, “which may be compared to a river; except that one side flows in one direction, carrying all who get into that side of the stream, onward and upward to WEALTH–and the other side flows in the opposite direction, carrying all who are unfortunate enough to get into it (and not able to extricate themselves from it), downward to misery and POVERTY.

“This river consists of one’s thinking process. The positive emotions of thought form the side of the stream which carries one to fortune. The negative emotions form the side which carries one down to poverty.”

This lesson was unusually hard to do, because I found myself caught in the turbulence in between the two sides of the stream. For too long I have been caught on the wrong side of the stream, the one that leads to poverty. It’s interesting that Hill sees that side as flowing downward, because Poverty is the default in our thinking. That’s what we fall into if we don’t make the effort to get out of it and onto the other side.

This week I have discovered it’s one thing to be in that downward flow… while there, I am going the way of least resistance… and quite another to dig that oar in and cross over… for the way to Wealth flows upward. It is not the default. It takes continual effort even to stay there once there.

Hill’s book, this mastermind group, and learning to live in the Present Moment, all represent that oar by which I may propel myself over into the other side of the stream.

As Patti recently pointed out to me, it takes a much more concerted effort to do that when I’m trying to break through long-held negative habits and thinking.

As of a few hours ago, I was one of those people Hill describes, who alternate between the positive and negative sides of the stream. Now isn’t that one of those things that makes one go, Hmmmmm. WHY would anyone want to do that, especially given how much effort it takes to cross from the Poverty side to the Wealth side???

NO MORE!!!

For years, my biggest struggle has had to do with a faulty perception of who I am, rather than accepting what is, and allowing God to do His work in me to be the woman He really created me to be. Therefore, from this moment forward, the following will be my mantra and my anchor. It will be posted where I can see it and refer to it frequently.

It’s OK to take as long as I need, to “get it”, no matter what the lesson is.
Keep bringing myself to the Present Moment.
Be the Silent Watcher, of my thoughts and emotions, with NO judging, criticizing or labeling.
Being Present is a conscious CHOICE, requiring action to get there and stay there.
Listen to Guy Finley or Eckhart Tolle every day if need be until I internalize this.
Quit thinking about things and trying to figure it all out.
Let GOD do the highlighting and pointing out what I need to learn and how I need to grow.
Nothing about me is wrong. I am perfect just the way I am.
I’m not supposed to be like anyone else.
Accept what is. Stop resisting and just BE.

~ Willena Flewelling

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Mastery of Procrastination

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Mar 242010

Chapter 8 – DECISION: THE MASTERY OF PROCRASTINATION

Sometimes I like to listen to recordings of old mental cleanse calls, previously downloaded to my computer. This week I had the privilege of hearing an awesome lesson by Lawrence B, from last April. He spoke of the importance of listening a lot more than talking. “Too much talking gives me away,” he said. “Do not let the conversation extend longer than it needs to be.” Both he and Hill are referring to conversations with other people, but I couldn’t help thinking that it’s exactly the same with mind chatter.

This is why most of us stay with the mental cleanse for more than 30 days. It’s the only way to cut through the chatter in my mind to see what’s really important, and where my focus should be.

I have so many voices clamoring to be heard, forcing their way to the fore, and wrestling each other for my attention. NOT the least of these is the “tiny tailors” Guy Finley talks about. Tiny tailors who measure and judge us, becoming louder and more aggressive the longer we allow them to do their thing. Give them an inch and they take a yard, seems appropriate here.

Like Eckhart Tolle, Guy Finley focuses on the power of now… learning to live in the present moment. Each day is a day unto itself. Each MOMENT is a moment unto itself. Moment by moment, those voices need to be silenced.

I am great at making decisions, but poor at following through. It’s easy to muster my forces and all my resources, to determine what needs to be done and lay it out clearly step by step. But taking those steps consistently every day is tough. So often I want to bang my head with something that will pound it in there and force it to stay there. I don’t want to be stuck at baby steps. But baby steps are what the Slight Edge philosophy is all about. Small steps taken consistently on a regular basis, steadily toward the goal

I’ve never thought of lack of decision and procrastination as being the same thing. And I’ve certainly never thought of them as being the result of poor self esteem. But of course they are. Why has it always been so hard for me to cry, even when my son died? In my head I know there is nothing wrong with crying when a loved one dies. But I fight it with every fibre of my being, even at the same time as wanting desperately to be ABLE to cry. It’s taken me a long time to realize it’s probably because my mom used to ridiculed me for crying, as if it were WRONG and inconsiderate to show such a sign of weakness.

What is it Michael says? “It’s none of my business what others think of me. My business is what I think of myself.” And that’s all that matters. Who cares if I cry at my son’s funeral or not? My son understood me. And I know the lack of outward, visible tears is no measure of the pain in my heart.

It’s not even four months since the last time we did Chapter 8… but what a lot has happened since then. The last time was Dec.9, just three days before James died. Just this last Sunday we stopped at the scene of the accident. We pass by there many times a week on our way to or from town, but this is the first time the snow had melted enough for us to stop and comb the area for anything we might like to keep. Later that same day we visited the cemetery. It’s only five miles down the country road from us, but again the snow kept us from going there before now. And it hit me that it was 3 months to the day since we were last there.

We all grieve in different ways. Writing is a great release for me. My whole family is helped a lot by talking about James each time we are together. On Sunday afternoon I watched my 10-year-old son Nathaniel stand solemnly and quietly by the grave of his big brother, head bowed and hands folded in front of him as he said goodbye again… and then run off with his little friend to explore the cemetery. And I thought, what a neat picture of living life in the moment. Nathaniel grieves for his big brother, and misses him a lot. But he doesn’t dwell on it, or even cry very much. James’ absence doesn’t keep him from living life to the fullest.

I wanna be just like Nathaniel when I grow up. And, thanks to the mental cleanse and our wonderful mastermind group, I believe I am well on my way.

~ Willena Flewelling

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