Knowledge is power, ONLY when it is organized into definite plans of action, and directed to a definite end.
Is all generalized knowledge a total waste of time? No…
There is nothing wrong with a jack-of-all-trades. I’m GLAD my husband can fix just about anything around the house and yard.
And the most well-read, well-studied individuals are often the most interesting to talk to. I ought to know… Continue reading »
The Four Temperaments.
We’ve all heard of them.
Hippocrates categorized them thus:
As I was reading through the chapter this time I was struck by the notes I penciled in the margin last time. I’m also struck by how lessons come from all directions when we need to learn them.
1. Michael suggests we look at previous lessons we’ve written, to be astounded and blessed by how much we’ve grown. But what if you look back at a previous lesson and find you have made NO progress… that you STILL haven’t applied the lessons learned?
2. Michael recently referred to the monkey on a friend’s back, and the serious problems it has caused that person in terms of health issues.
3. I’m told, The way you do anything is the way you do everything.
And then there’s David Haines’ brilliant lesson plan… Continue reading »
Something happened this week that completely blew me away.
Some call it intuition… others call it telepathy. Napoleon Hill calls it the sixth sense. I have had others’ unspoken thoughts affect my thoughts, and motivate me to a particular action. But this time I was the one who affected someone else, two thousand miles away — swiftly and strongly. It was amazing proof to me that we really do send out vibrations to others — and they will be received by those who are open to them.
Picture this: A conference call, attended by several hundred people from all over the globe. The host, Michael Dlouhy, is in Florida, and I am in Edmonton Alberta. Michael mistook someone else for me when she spoke up on the call. Not surprising in itself. But a little later in the call, Michael called me by name and asked if I was wanting to ask a question, because he felt very strongly that I was. Well, I wasn’t. But neither was it his imagination. Let me explain…
The first time my mentor ever spoke with me, I told her I have ADHD. She said, “Really? You don’t sound like it.” She went on to say, “Michael doesn’t believe there is any such thing as ADHD, and that it’s the Blue personality.”
“Yeah, right,” I thought. “That’s because Michael does not live inside my head.” Because everyone knows I am not a Blue… one of the four colours assigned to the personality types. Blue… otherwise known as Sanguine… i.e. the vivacious, outgoing, fast-talking, stylishly flamboyant, fun-loving, entertaining, enthusiastic type who starts, motivates AND LEADS the team!
A Blue I am not.
I react to Michael’s comments about ADHD every time, but on that conference call for some reason it was very strong, like a powerful jolt of electricity. I wanted so badly to speak up. THAT is what Michael was picking up on when he thought I was trying to speak up, and it blew me away that he KNEW.
Here’s the thing…
It has always bothered me when Michael dismisses ADHD as if it doesn’t exist, because it was a very positive thing for me to learn that I had it, and that I was not just stupid, lazy, scattered or crazy. It was a tremendous relief for me to understand why I think and act the way I do. I felt like the weight of a lifetime had been lifted off my back. And when I showed the evidence to my husband, he said he felt as if he’d been given the key to understanding me for the first time in the 23 years he had known me. It was awesome… kind of like a Blue learning he or she is a Blue.
To be told you don’t have ADHD… you’re just a Blue… if you are NOT a Blue… could be confusing and not very helpful. ADHD crosses all temperaments and colours. But I have never spoken about this to Michael before, because I don’t want to undermine the excellent work he is doing with all of us. AND because I’ve discovered something… it’s two-fold….
First, I know Michael means well, and the few times he has mentioned it on a call, someone may need exactly his take on it, in order to grow. It could spell Freedom to someone who has lived under that label for years, and has convinced himself or herself that change is not possible.
Second, when it irritates me and I want to correct him, I am coming from the Negative side of the emotions chart. It’s that desire to “set someone straight,” because “I have done the research and I KNOW.” And as long as I am hanging on to that, how do I know I am not still “owning” the label, which will only hold me back.
I don’t think so much about ADHD any more because I know I was using it as an excuse… a limitation. Nor do I think of it as “my” ADHD any more, because that’s owning what does not serve me. Instead I accept myself for who and how I am, and look for ways to grow. I still catch myself sometimes, but I’m learning.
I did not speak up on the call, because I knew my attitude was all wrong. But I did write to Michael immediately after the call, to share with him what had happened. Through his response I was reminded again of the vital importance of NOT owning our weaknesses, but focusing on our strengths, developing and establishing them. The mental cleanse, self talk, perfect day, and living in the now are all priceless tools for maximizing our strengths. They’ve done wonders for me, and as I continue in my personal growth, I am able more and more to see what my strengths are, and build on them.
© Willena Flewelling
Phone 780-349-7163
When Think & Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, is studied with a mastermind group, it helps you to find the treasure buried deep within yourself. Discover YOUR treasure by signing up with the 30 Day Mental Cleanse. Each week we read a chapter from the book, and then write down our thoughts, comments, and lessons learned.
Here are my thoughts from this week’s chapter.
Chapter 8 – DECISION: THE MASTERY OF
PROCRASTINATION
One size never fits all. We come in all shapes and sizes…four different personality colours and any
number of shades and combinations… Sometimes I wonder what colour Napoleon Hill was. Certainly I know we can’t all take everything he says as the whole truth.
I had a friend in Bible college who took it very seriously when the chapel leader said to search our hearts solemnly for anything sinful. At times it was devastating for her, and for a time I wondered why.
Then one day it came to me. Of course it was harmful to her…she was the Greenest of Greens, and already spent far too much time in exercises of introversion. THAT message was not for her…it was for those who needed to slow down and take some time for soul searching.
Reaching decisions promptly, and changing those decisions slowly, says Hill, is a common characteristic of hundreds of people who had amassed fortunes. People who fail to accumulate money, without exception, habitually reach decisions very slowly if at all, and change those decisions quickly and often.
Is there not a happy medium, I ask? Isn’t it wiser to weigh the pros and cons, and take one’s time to come to conclusions? And then stick with those conclusions? But that’s what both my husband and I do, and guess what? We have never succeeded in accumulating even a comfortable amount of money.
The colours technology is fascinating. All of us are perfect just the way we are if we are true to our colours. At the same time, we can all learn from others who are strong where we are weak. I am primarily Yellow with a strong dose of Green. I am friendly, but find it extremely difficult to take the initiative to make friends with people…unless it is via letters or over the internet. But I can learn from the Blues, who generally find it easier to talk to people. It’s still very hard for me to speak up on our MFF calls, even though I feel as if I know so many of you in person. But if I want to be the Leader I SAY I want to be, I NEED to overcome those fearful tendencies, and just pick up the phone and talk to a prospect, or press *7 and speak up on the calls.
As one who comes to decisions slowly and often only after much agonizing, I’ve come to see after reading this chapter this time…that my indecision is USUALLY caused by listening to others’ opinions and allowing them to influence me. After all, I am a big girl now…more often than not, the knowledge is already within, and I need only draw upon that well of knowledge and wisdom, and act upon it.
I am so grateful to all in this mastermind group who do so much to help me open my eyes to the real truth. I am so grateful for this mastermind group, where instead of “pooling our ignorance” we discover wisdom and truth from the mastermind.
It feels so good to rise from the mire of self doubt and confusion, and look around at the clarity and truth that has always been there.
Willena Flewelling
You can register for the 30 Day Cleanse mastermind group here…it’s free…as is all of our skills training at Mentoring For Free which begins with downloading and reading “Success in 10 Steps” by Michael Dlouhy, founder of Mentoring For Free. I would be happy to walk through the skills training with you just as my coach and mentor have been helping me all along. Make it a great day!!
© Willena Flewelling
Phone 780-349-7163
When Think & Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, is studied with a mastermind group, it helps you to find the treasure buried deep within yourself. Discover YOUR treasure by signing up with the 30 Day Mental Cleanse. Each week we read a chapter from the book, and then write down our thoughts, comments, and lessons learned.
Here are my thoughts from this week’s chapter.
Wow…it seems like this whole Present Moment thing is THE Lesson God is teaching me right now, because it’s all I see everywhere. And I don’t just mean the connections and applications I am noted for making. I mean it’s THERE, quite clearly, everywhere I look. Even during Sunday school and church last Sunday. And I even spoke up about it, because it fit so well with what Pastor Lyle was putting across to us.
I’ve been listening to the Chapter 13 Mental Cleanse call from last time around, and Robert K’s lesson in particular.
Michael says that lesson is perfect for the analytical Green personality type, because Greens are always trying to “figure it out”, and Robert explains how it actually functions. Well, I must have more green in me than I like to admit. It is SO hard for me to let go and just wait for understanding to come…something in me just HAS to understand as I go, or I come to a dead standstill as I try to figure it out with the incomplete set of facts that have been presented. I know that is not good, because it keeps me stuck there, unable to receive any more. It’s a tough lesson, but one I have been working on for years. Robert’s lesson DOES help, because he gives me a clear visual of what happens when I am in the present moment.
He makes me want to spend more time with that part of me that is always calmly observing. Even in that quiet place, I can still be pulled away by the distractions. But that quiet place of observance also distances me from the chaos just enough that I can “watch my thoughts and feelings change and fade away.”
Wow. There is power in that…but more important, it’s a tremendous relief.
All of us need a bridge between what we understand, and what we don’t…i.e. the need for going from the known to the unknown. But some people are able to just let go when that bridge does not appear…and just take the teacher’s hand…trust the teacher…and go ahead, knowing it’s there. And then there are those of us who find it next to impossible to do that. That’s the tough lesson.
At the same time, I HAVE been learning things in recent years that help me get to the place of understanding. Energy therapy…EFT…kinesiology…kinesionics… All of these things helped bring me to the place where I could accept Hill’s book and read it with an open mind. And being part of the mastermind group for almost a year has helped me further…
Further and further in, you might say. I haven’t been troubled so much this week about the Real Me clinging to her safe place ‘way in there… Maybe she’s ventured out a little…I dunno…But Robert’s lesson rings bells for me…the RIGHT kind of bells. 
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I am in a place right now that I have never been in my life before…standing on the threshold of a vast and wonderful new life. My future stretches before me in every direction…bright, sunny and beautiful…full of exciting possibilities and vast potential.
~ Willena Flewelling
Many leaders, including myself, say that the 30 Day Cleanse is the #1 reason for their success in network marketing. We’ve heard it said many times, “To make more, we have to become more.” When we take back our thoughts, we are becoming more.
You can register for the 30 Day Cleanse mastermind group here…it’s free…as is all of our skills training at Mentoring For Free which begins with downloading and reading “Success in 10 Steps” by Michael Dlouhy, founder of Mentoring For Free. I would be happy to walk through the skills training with you just as my coach and mentor have been helping me all along. Make it a great day!!
Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill
CHAPTER 15 – HOW TO OUTWIT THE SIX GHOSTS OF FEAR
The 13th Step Toward Riches
In this lesson the question is asked:
“Why do people spend so much time creating alibis to cover their weaknesses?”
It seems to me the more I learn about myself, and the more I want to change, the harder I work to sabotage myself. What am I afraid of? Failure? Success??
“Before we master an enemy, we must know its name, its habits, and its place of abode.”
For years I’ve felt as if I am in a vortex… How can I fix what’s wrong in my thinking if I don’t know what it is? But, while the above statement is, true, the balance is somewhere between it and the following…
“Waiting for the right time to begin putting ideas and plans into action till the waiting becomes a permanent habit.”
What if I never figure out what’s wrong? So much of my life I have felt like I am sitting on a spring that’s ready to go *sproing*. In more recent years the operative word is “driven.” What if this restlessness follows me to my grave???
I am a yellow personality type, not a blue… but a yellow with ADHD shares a lot of the blue weaknesses. The answer for me has to be the same as it is for anyone else with similar weaknesses. The question again… “Why do people spend so much time creating alibis to cover their weaknesses?”
And the answer?
“If used differently the same time would be sufficient to cure the weaknesses, and no alibis would be needed.”
I don’t know why it is such a struggle for me. Maybe I just forget too often that it is a journey… a process. No matter what my weaknesses, I need to say my self talk hundreds of times a day. Even if it is extremely challenging for me to remember to say it at all.
Tonight my friend Cheryl is coming from 500 miles away, to use her alternative health care techniques to balance each person in our family for the loss of James. I don’t know what she is going to do exactly, but I know it will make a difference. I just hope it will help me to be able to focus better on my daily tasks… and help me to forge ahead a little faster in building my business. She is coming at just the right time too… this past week James’ death has finally begun to sink in for me. The cocoon…the buffer…the numbness is wearing off, and the REALness of his absence is all too…starkly real. When I am overcome by fatigue and a total lack of motivation, I will do SOMEthing, remembering, “I can do all things through Christ, Who strengthens me.”
~ Willena Flewelling
