“Never doubt in the darkness what is revealed to you in the light.”

Those words of wisdom were spoken to me many years ago, when my first husband lay in a hospital bed, dying of a brain tumor. Believe me, sitting by your husband’s bedside for 17 months while he suffers from pressure on the brain, and strange hallucinations and other side effects from the drugs he had to take, gives plenty of opportunity for doubt and fear to creep in.

Bob and I were married in June ’76. Almost right away we knew something was wrong, Continue reading »

 

THE TRUE HEART OF CHRISTMAS

When the last carol has been sung,
When the final gift has been unwrapped,
When the relatives have returned home,
When the lights and decorations have been put away…

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Christmas Gift Suggestions:

To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.

~ by Oren Arnold

And if you aspire to be a great leader, I’m sure you will agree that THESE gifts are not only for Christmas, but for all year round. Because a truly great leader has a servant’s heart.

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© Willena Flewelling
Phone 780-349-7163

 

YOU CAN ALWAYS SEE IN OTHERS WHATEVER TRAITS OF CHARACTER YOU ARE LOOKING FOR

Margaret Wolfe Hungerford said, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” It was her way of saying that we see what we wish to see in others.

Every living human being is a complex combination of feelings, emotions, and thoughts—some good, some bad. Your impression of another depends far more upon you and your expectations of that person. If you believe someone is good, you will find good qualities. If you don’t, you won’t.

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Thought trans — what??? 8-O You may well ask.

Simply put, it means changing one thing over into another. Hill specifically speaks of “sex transmutation”, or redirecting the energy of sex into other areas, for greater productivity in our lives. In this case, I am referring to changing negative thoughts over into positive ones.

I used to think I was afraid of failure. Now I see it’s more than that. As I observe the old pattern repeating itself even today, I notice that the minute I see I’m on the road to SUCCESS – I beat a hasty retreat to the old path.

Fear is only one of the seven negative emotions, any of which Napoleon Hill could have mentioned in his list of mind stimuli, yet it is the only one he mentions in relation to the transmutation of thought. .

Autosuggestion, or self talk, is also on Hill’s list. We all know how important self talk is, but it’s one of those things that’s easy not to do. However, when we think we’re not doing it, we ARE still doing it… our minds just revert to the default negative self talk.

So, instead telling myself I am afraid to talk to people on the phone, how about this…

“I Love to talk to people with the Enthusiasm and intensity of Sex energy, having Faith that they want what I have to offer. I woo them with the gentle persistence of Romance, because I have a burning Desire to help them transform their fear and confusion into a genuine Hope of Prosperity.”

Now there is what I call relationship building!

© Willena Flewelling
Phone 780-349-7163

 

Michael & Linda Dlouhy get requests all the time from Leaders in many different Network Marketing Companies to write an article to address some of the problems that plague our industry. And who better to write such an article than the author of “Success in 10 Steps”?

Following is their article in its entirety. As you read it, ask yourself… “What kind of Leader do I want to be?”

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06/28/10

THE FALL OF A LEADER

When a great leader falls because of a lack of integrity, it is
very painful for all involved. Tearing another person down to
build yourself up, only leads to a false impression of yourself.

When someone is tearing others down in front of You this is
a guarantee they will do the same to You behind Your back.
Ultimately you will crash and burn from your lack of character.

The question is:

Would You Want This Person As Your Sponsor ?

Life can give us challenges in many areas of our life. How we
handle those challenges ourselves and who helps us, can
determine our success or failure. Loyalty to do the right thing
enters into all decisions. Friendships built on loyalty and trust
are like support beams for a foundation.

A foundation is the beginning. This applies to your marriage,
your friendships, your home and your business. If you build
them correctly, they will sustain you your lifetime. If you
build carelessly everything will crumble around you.

Leaders are built. Day by day, Lesson by lesson. When a
leader chooses to fall, they sacrifice their integrity, their
honor and their character.

If after knowing the facts and fully utilizing their “critical
thinking skills” when someone decides to leave Your Team
please wish them all the best.

Excerpt from “Launching a Leadership Revolution”
Foundational Leadership Quality: Honorable

Integrity can be considered as the condition of “not doing
what’s wrong.” Character can be defined as doing the right
things, for the mere reason that it is the right thing, even if
that thing is difficult and unpopular.

The two sewn together make honor. Author Jeff O’Leary,
in The Centurion Principles, writes, ” ‘Honor’ encompasses
the virtues of integrity and honesty, self-denial, loyalty, and
a servant’s humility to those in authority above as well as a
just and merciful heart to those below.”

Honor is such a rarely used word in our times that it seems
a little old-fashioned. But living a life of integrity and character
is timeless and, for a leader, absolutely necessary. It’s about
choices, and a person’s choices in life follow him to the grave.

Is this to say that a person needs to be perfect to become a
leader? Of course not. Perfection in this life is not possible,
and we, the authors, are certainly not exceptions. However,
a leader must strive continually toward perfection even though
she knows she can never exactly attain it.

It is a question of the heart. The most effective leaders through
out history have led with their hearts, in trust, and with honor.
If a leader cuts corners, misuses people, or misrepresents, the
truth, a time bomb begins ticking. Someday, somewhere, the
bomb will go off. It is obvious in our times only too often: public
figures at the pinnacles of power and fame crash and burn in
the cloud of self-inflicted shame. From political scandals to
high-profile corporate frauds, these calamities are brought
on by a lack of honor in the leadership.

“Human happiness and moral duty are inseparably connected.”

The difference between leaders we revile and those we praise
is their individual level of honor. In fact, honor is the force that
holds a leader’s hunger in check.

Without honor, hunger runs rampant and ultimately serves
only selfish interests. Honor is the component that makes
hunger productive for the leader’s fellow man. In fact, what
we are basically describing here is another “old-fashioned”
word: duty.

George Washington said of duty, “Human happiness and
moral duty are inseparably connected.” So leadership is
spawned by hunger and held in check by honor.

Under that combination, leaders will find happiness in the
fulfillment of their duty to others. It has been said that the
character of a man is the only thing that will walk back
from the grave into the hearts of the people who knew him.

That is the legacy of a leader. The words a leader say and
the walk a leader walks must match. As the saying goes,
“Your word is your worth and your worth is your word.”

Andy Stanley, author of The Next Generation Leader, says,
“To become a leader worth following you must give time and
attention to the inner man.

To leave a legacy that goes beyond accomplishment alone,
a leader must devote himself to matters of the heart.”
Character is developed in the valleys and the peaks of life,
enabling a person to overcome obstacles and deal with
success.

Abraham Lincoln observed, “Nearly all men can handle
adversity, but if you really want to test a man’s character -
give him power.” Character connects a person to what is
right and true.

If reputation is what others think of you, then character is
what God knows about you. This concept of honor is so
important to a leader because people will follow a leader
only as far as they feel they can trust him.

People will not follow a leader they can’t trust. According
to R. Ruth Barton, “We set young leaders up for a fall if
we encourage them to envision what they can do before
they consider the kind of person they should be.”

Warren Bennis tells us, “In the leadership arena,
character counts. I am not saying this casually, of studies,
observations, and interviews with leaders and with the
people near them…. I’ve never seen a person derailed
from [leadership] positions for lack of technical competence.

But I’ve seen lots of people derailed for lack of judgment
and character.” And, as Heraclitus said, “Man’s character
is his fate.” Finally, it should be remembered that a major
component of honor is personal courage.

Without the courage to do what’s right because it’s right,
regardless of ramifications to self, one is not truly worthy
to be called a leader.

When people don’t “Believe” they deserve Success they
will self destruct every time…. This is the reason we tell
everyone we meet to “Participate” in the 30 Day Mental
Cleanse if You want to own Your life.

www.30DayCleanse.com

We Believe In You
Michael & Linda Dlouhy
352–799–8779 anytime.
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When Think & Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, is studied with a mastermind group, it helps you to find the treasure buried deep within yourself. Discover YOUR treasure by signing up with the 30 Day Mental Cleanse. Each week we read a chapter from the book, and then write down our thoughts, comments, and lessons learned.

I was not going to share my lesson from this week’s chapter. I almost didn’t share it with my mentors. I did not like what I saw, and most certainly did not want to put it out there where others could see it. But I made a decision the last time I started over at Chapter 1 in this book. I committed to being ALL IN. And that meant being honest with myself and courageous enough to dig up what is there, and share it so that it can help others AND myself.

So. Here is what I learned from Chapter 11…


CHAPTER 11: THE MYSTERY OF SEX TRANSMUTATION

Last time I read this chapter, all I could think of was the mother-son relationship that had been severed–yet will never be completely severed–by the sudden death of my oldest son, James, three weeks earlier. It was a lesson in transferring of grief and loss to gratitude and gain.

This time, a sleeping giant has awakened and made its presence known. The time has come to face it and slay it. Hill says:

“Sex transmutation is simple and easily explained. It means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature.”

He then goes on to say that if this amazing form of energy is not transmuted into a creative outlet, it will seek an outlet through purely physical channels. I’ve known for a long time that instead of turning to my husband, I turn to food. Even as a teenager I knew an obsession with food was not much different from the alcoholism that dogged my stepfather’s footsteps and killed him at the age of 43.

Ian and I have never regretted our decision to have a large family. But when I had six children ten and under, followed by one more when I was 46…well, after being hugged and kissed and climbed on by little ones all day long, I was “all touched out” before bedtime. I was emotionally exhausted, and wanted only to be left alone.

From the time I was a child, my motto was, “Never fight – retreat!” And if I could not get away for a walk or a bike ride, I retreated within myself where even my husband could not touch me.

Don’t get me wrong…Ian and I have always been best of friends, able to talk about anything. We haven’t always agreed, and have at times had to skirt certain subjects for a time…but there is nothing between us now.

Nothing except the sleeping giant.

I call it that, in order to acknowledge TO MYSELF how huge this really is. It needs to be dealt with.

My husband knows I love him with all my heart…that when I retreat, it isn’t to shut him out, but to shut out all the things outside of us that make me feel pulled in a thousand directions at once. Which only leads to a rat hole of darkness, self-pity and self-flogging. It’s all becoming clear to me even as I write.

Recent lessons have helped tear down wall after wall, until now the sleeping giant is exposed. I AM the sleeping giant. The Real Me who has been saying all along that I “can’t” do the lesson plans… because I “can’t” find what’s really holding me back. Now it’s right there in plain view, and I know what I am dealing with….

Years ago I discovered that my desire for food is insatiable. There is a bottomless pit within. I could stuff it till I weighed 400 lbs. and I would STILL be hungering for something more.

I know what it is now. It’s the sex energy that Hill talks about. I don’t fully understand yet, but I do know I have been holding out on my husband–to my own detriment as well as his, to the detriment of my family, and all others who are missing out on the gifts and talents God has given me to use for their benefit–all because of my retreating, and drugging myself with food.

THAT is what has held me back from a whole lot more, which is just crying out to find expression in a much more positive way.

The remedy is to harness that restless, driving energy and put it to work, first in my relationship with my husband, and then in building my business in a creative and caring way.

~ Willena Flewelling


If you would like to join this 30 Day Cleanse mastermind group and learn HOW to think rather than WHAT to think…to slow down the mind chatter so you can program your own mind rather than running on auto-pilot from programming implanted in your mind by others…well, I invite you to join us.

Many leaders…including myself….say that the 30 Day Cleanse is the #1 reason for their success in network marketing. We’ve heard it said many times, “To make more, we have to become more.” When we take back our thoughts, we are becoming more.

You can register for the 30 Day Cleanse mastermind group here…it’s free…as is all of our skills training at “Mentoring For Free” which begins with downloading and reading “Success in 10 Steps” by Michael Dlouhy, founder of “Mentoring For Free”. I would be happy to walk through the skills training with you just as my coach and mentor have been helping me all along. Make it a great day, my friend!!

 

“A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out — physically and emotionally — trying to collect them.

“No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence. And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do.

“That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers. It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he thinks, what he believes to be important, what he wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want.”

~ A Quote from Harry Browne

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